My thoughts on daydreaming, Harper's Bazaar and The People's Choice

"To lose one's self  in reverie, one must be either very happy or very unhappy.
  Reverie is the child of extremes" ~ Antoine de Rivarol


        I am sitting at my desk staring out my window, my mind is beginning to drift away into thoughts of nothing and everything all at once. I can hear the world moving around me, but pay no attention. Two small squirrels make their way into my line of vision and it hits me.....I have been daydreaming. It has been so long since I have actually caught myself in a daydream, I forgot what it felt like.  I promptly snap back to reality and recall an article I read recently that daydreaming while thought to be a healthy escape from reality, is in fact UNhealthy; and the daydream (no matter what the subject) can cause you to feel sad. While I understand the logic behind this, I can't help but think this can't be completely true. My heroes have all been daydreamers. The poets and musicians I have opened my heart to speak to me in a way no scientific mind ever could. They are the one's who give my world color and imagination and for that I am forever in their debt. So I say dream on, my friends..."dream out loud"!

     Earlier this week, while attempting to block out the vulgar conversation two men were having at the bar I work in, I buried my nose in a magazine (much like what Tara tends to do at Merlottes!)...flipping through page after page of advertisements and recommendations for shoes I will never be able to afford, I came across a very interesting read. The article entitled "Girl vs Girl" by Naomi Wolf  (featured in the November issue of Harper's Bazaar) reminded me of something I was talking about in my last post  "Feminism-the new F word?". The article, inspired by the new movie "Black Swan", starring Natalie Portman and Mila Kunis as two ballet dancers caught in a messy rivalry, breaks down the anatomy of female group behavior. Using examples of  schoolyard bullying tactics to more well known celebrity female rivalries the author paints a picture of time tested patterns that read like a handbook on how to break one another down. Ms.Wolf even suggests that this behavior might be genetic " I have seen the exclusion of one women or group accompanied by so much glee from the others that it seems almost like a visceral behavior. I have even wondered if this reflex is evolutionary". Towards the end of the article she [Naomi Wolf] begs the question "Do we risk losing the victories of feminism in every previous generation because we can't for the life of us seem to be able to sustain a common cause without inevitably taking out the long knives?"  It really does make you wonder! If we as women could stop just long enough to realize what we are doing to each other, and in turn to ourselves I would hope, as Ms.Wolf does that "in looking closely at this darker side of our own psyche, we will learn enough about ourselves to stop being held at the mercy of it."  For the full article I urge you to pick up this months issue of Harper's Bazaar!

     For the last part of this impromptu blog I call your attention to the 2010 Peoples Choice Awards. As we all know awards shows can be boring and predictable, but this show has the potential to be quiet different. While not truly your choice, as you are choosing from a group of pre selected nominees, the vote is in your (our) hands! True Blood has been nominated for a variety of categories and I would LOVE to see them win! Having already voted I call upon you now to do the same! To cast your vote please visit http://www.peopleschoice.com/ ~ Rebecca